How do you keep children safe from abductors?

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I feel that it is my calling to inform parents, babysitters, and everyone else the importance of watching your children constantly. One way is to never leave your child outside of the house playing by themselves. It will take no time at all for your child to be kidnapped by an abductor. You should take the child around the block on their bike. Don't give me this I am too tired to watch my child as she or he is playing outside! I think that is the most selfish thing a parent can say. Babysitters also should never say that they are too tired to watch the children they have been entrusted to watch play outside! I think sitting on the front or back porch while the child plays right in from of the house is fine but if the child wants to go down the street to see her or his friends then you should go with her or him. I also believe that it is important to go to the park with children and watch them as you sit on the bench without looking or better yet go on the swings with them.
I meant to say that it is okay to sit on the front porch and watch your child/children or the child/children you have been entrusted to watch play right in front of the house or sit on the back porch and watch your child/children play in the yard. You should never take your eyes away from your child/children.

At the park, as I had mentioned, interact with your child/children. If you sit on the bench watching your child/children or someone's child/children you have been entrusted to watch just don't take your eyes off that child or those children. Strangers are very good at persuading children to follow them so tell your precious child/children that they should never follow a stranger or strangers. Sometimes it could be a couple trying to persuade. They will say something clever like: "Can you help me find my dog?" It is a lie and you need to tell your child/children that. Make sure they don't fall for anything a stranger says. Tell them never to take candy from a stranger.
When you see a child alone, ask her or him where her or his mommy or daddy is or who is their babysitter and take her or him to that person and verify with the child that this is really their mommy or daddy or babysitter. If you see a child with someone and that child looks uncomfortable or that person doesn't address that child by name and that child listens by saying yes mommy or daddy out loud without hesitation in her or his voice then go up to that child or those children and ask them if that is really their mommy or daddy. Who cares if the person takes offense to it! You are looking out for that child or those children. Make that person who is with that precious child or those precious children that you are making sure that no one will kidnap them and try to hurt them. Get the message across to that person because you shouldn't be afraid to protect any child from harm. You could be saving that child's or those childrens' lives. Be a hero!
When you are the mall and you see a child alone in the store or in the middle of the mall, ask the child the same question as above. You want to make sure that child is with her or his parent before you leave. How can you feel good about leaving a store or the middle of the mall without making sure that child is with his or her real mom or dad? I know I couldn't. You are saving a child's life! Don't be more interested in yourself than a child! The clothes in the store can wait. If you work in the mall or a retail store do the same thing. Put aside what your job entails and help find that child's real mom or dad!
Teach your children the importance of screaming and running away when a stranger approaches them. Have them yell for help immediately. Don't teach them to do it as soon as the stranger goes to grab their arm or pick them up. It could be too late by that time.

Too many children disappear and are murdered because parents aren't watching their children and babysitters aren't watching the children they have been entrusted to take care of. We need to change this. NO MORE CHILD ABDUCTIONS!
I personally have saved two children from being kidnapped. No I am not a police officer or mall security guard or a sales person but I make my presence known to all around me that I am helping this child look for his or her parents. I will even ask the child out loud where their parents are or where their babysitter is. I think good samaritans are everywhere. Unfortunately, the bad guys know how to go out and buy police officer clothing but on the streets if they are directing traffic near a police cruiser with the state or local police logo on the side of it then they are the real deal and in a mall tell them to go up to the people who work in the store or work at one of the vending places in the middle of the mall or mall security and tell them what they look like. I have learned a lot from shows like Unsolved Mysteries. Tell them to just scream out loud.
No I won't stop talking about this! If you don't like it than move on to the next question. I know that you have to trust your children when they are teenagers and only when they are teenagers can you break the apron strings. But consistently remind them even as teenagers that a stranger, maybe even a cute stranger will lie to them on the streets or in a mall or at a store to persuade them to leave with them so that they can get hurt. Don't you watch your local news or hear about national news. Southern people especially are too trusting of people. You can't trust strangers who come up to you out of the blue and ask questions like: "Can you help me find my keys?" They are clever. Those people who say I don't want to think about the bogeyman or anything like that are fooling themselves when they decide to not instill fear of strangers in their children. You should be watching them everywhere they are until they are teenagers. I don't want to hear about another child abducted.

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When I was 4yrs old, I was almost abducted when I was at a neighbor's house selling lemonade with a 2 other kids, ages 6 and 9. We lived in a very safe neighborhood/town. My mother was inside our house with my baby brother at the time and left me under the supervision of the neighbor who volunteered. A couple of other kids came over and a few other moms. A little while later a man in a lawn truck came up and asked to buy some lemonade. We, the kids, were told to tell an adult when a person came to buy lemonade so I ran over to my neighbor who was talking 10 feet away and did so. She grabbed my hand and we walked back over the table to poor it. The man got out of the truck and walked up the table, took the lemonade from the neighbor, then grabbed my arm. To make a long story short, he was tackled by about 5 moms, arrested etc.
That was about 31 years ago. I'm married now with 4 kids of my own and live not even an hour away from where I grew up in Jersey. I have taught my 3 boys, who are 9, 7 and 3 about strangers, who to look for if they get lost, to check badges on cops, to hold my hand, phone number, address, a neighbors and another family members phone and address, certain signals, to run and scream, pin pain points etc. The bottom line is, theyre never 100% safe. Just because you walk your kid to a neighbors house or they hold your hand in the mall etc, doesn't mean they can't be abducted easily. 4 years ago a girl was abducted in a mall in NJ. She was holding her moms hand and was taken. The mall was locked down and the girl was returned safe. Goes to show how easily something like this can happen.
I do agree with you at some level. Interacting with your children, watching them because they're responsibility, teaching them these important safety issues etc. These are all good points. But at the same time, we can't live in a bubble of fear and can't watch EVERYTHING 24/7. It's impossible. I've been told many many times how abnormal my perspective on child safety and freedom is because of what happened when I was kid. Why should I be scared to death of every person who walks by my kids? What does that teach them?
When I take my boys (before my baby was born) to the park, one wants to go on the swings, the other on the slide and I'm standing over at the monkey bars helping the little one. I can't say, "I'm helping Connor with the monkey bars. You too come stand here." I help my 3yr and listen for my older two.
I think parents should be on top of their kids with safety issues and what to do, who to look for etc. We should pay attention to them more often in public places. But at the same time, there do need to learn to do things on their own. I'm not going to hold my 9yrs hand and walk him down to his friends house to houses away. I watch him go.
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Do you allow your children to choose their clothing at age 6?

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My daughter will be 6 in a few weeks, and her wardrobe is constantly changing somehow. I've never allowed her to have shorts that do not reach her thighs. Obviously, no midriff, I also don't allow spaghetti straps or little tube tops. My daughter never asks for them, so those rules are tucked in the back of my mind. I've never had to tell her "No" on clothing. However, her dad says I'm not strict enough. He doesn't appreciate what she wears. My daughter wears a lot of DC, Adidas, Nike and Puma brand name clothing. She likes their shoes, their tops, the pants, etc. She does dress like a boy sometimes, and I'm not going to object as long as she's covered. My ex says my daughter dresses like a little thug. I asked him if he's ever tried to stuff her in a dress for school. It's not happening. She's in jeans, her Puma shirt, her DC shoes and she's happy. She likes to dress in dirt biking jerseys because I dirt bike, and she'll start soon. She's never been a dress kind of girl, she HATES purple, and she doesn't like skirts. Should I encourage her to dress more like a lady or let her be her own person?

The other thing is: the swim suit because that is our biggest battle yet between my ex and I. She absolutely HATES the 1 piece because she says she couldn't take it off to go potty. When she was littler I'd dress her in 2 piece swim suites to make diaper changes easier and to make potty training easier. Now that all of that is over, she still likes the 2 piece. I took her out to shop for swim suites and she likes the ones with the tummy showing because I wear those kind. She wants to look like Mommy plus she likes the designs. I'm not sure what to do on that part.

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I think a six year old should have input into how she dresses. She should be allowed to have her own preferences as much as practical, with you watching over and steering her as necessary (like to make sure she's covered. Kids don't have the same sense of modesty, of course).

Her dad might feel differently if he went to her school and saw how the other kids were dressed. I'm guessing a lot of her ideas come from there.

I don't think a two piece bathing suit looks slutty on a six year old. 8^) I think the reason she gave for preferring a two-piece is perfectly valid. I myself wear what is essentially the bottom of a two-piece suit, for just that reason! (They don't make the top part for guys.)

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