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John
My wife and I just had a baby 3 months ago. Before our baby (and the pregnancy), I did triathlons, hiked the Grand Canyon every spring break, ran, biked, and swam weekly, and mountain biked weekly or bi-weekly. That's all I did...I did/do not go out to the bars, I don't play video games, I didn't hang out with the boys (or if I did, we were swimming or mountain biking together).
Now that baby is here I can't do any of the above. I feel terrible physically. I'm getting fat. I'm feeling resentful. As I write this I am having the first feelings of depression of my life.
I feel obliged to get home from work asap every day and help out with the baby. I know it is super-hard for my wife and she is a sweetheart and is amazing with our baby. But I want to take my roadbike out and hit the road for a couple of hours. I want to swim a mile at the gym. I want to go out for a long jog/run. But I can't!!! Should I throw in the towel and forget about my pre-baby passions?
Thanks all who responded. All were helpful.
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Dude, you need to get balance in your life quickly. First, welcome to fatherhood. It is only downhill from here. Kidding, relax. As stated previously, the key is balance. You shouldn't give up everything. Your body is rebelling agaist your inactivity. Chances are your wife would like for you to leave. She needs time with baby. However, this is a 50/50 arrangement. You need time with junior also and she needs time away from both of you. My personal expirence is that she will only been gone a 1/3 of the time you are gone. Good luck with getting her out of the house for the first year. Communicate, you are not that far away from balance. Both of you are making adjustments, give and take. Settle for 3-5 hours a week and 2x a month with a Saturday outing.
No, life will never be the same and trust me that is a good thing. Honestly the best time of my adult life has been when my children were mere babies. What I would give to have them in my arms again or just lying on my chest while watching TV. Now I can barely get a hug from my 13 yr old, 6' tall daughter, who by the way, has informed me that she is eligible to work at Hooters because her chest touches the wall before her nose.....why does she know these things. My 10 year son thinks it is uncool for guys to hug. Wait til he tells you they are too old to hug you....it will kill you, that was at 6 yrs old. Work in what you can, but don't miss a moment. I would do it again 12 times if I could afford it. You think this is difficult, wait till the other children come and there is soccer practice, baseball, dance, track, bass lessons, etc. Your priorties will change and opportunities will aline themselves with your childrens activity. You have not a clue, but so worth it.
Dude, you need to get balance in your life quickly. First, welcome to fatherhood. It is only downhill from here. Kidding, relax. As stated previously, the key is balance. You shouldn't give up everything. Your body is rebelling agaist your inactivity. Chances are your wife would like for you to leave. She needs time with baby. However, this is a 50/50 arrangement. You need time with junior also and she needs time away from both of you. My personal expirence is that she will only been gone a 1/3 of the time you are gone. Good luck with getting her out of the house for the first year. Communicate, you are not that far away from balance. Both of you are making adjustments, give and take. Settle for 3-5 hours a week and 2x a month with a Saturday outing.
No, life will never be the same and trust me that is a good thing. Honestly the best time of my adult life has been when my children were mere babies. What I would give to have them in my arms again or just lying on my chest while watching TV. Now I can barely get a hug from my 13 yr old, 6' tall daughter, who by the way, has informed me that she is eligible to work at Hooters because her chest touches the wall before her nose.....why does she know these things. My 10 year son thinks it is uncool for guys to hug. Wait til he tells you they are too old to hug you....it will kill you, that was at 6 yrs old. Work in what you can, but don't miss a moment. I would do it again 12 times if I could afford it. You think this is difficult, wait till the other children come and there is soccer practice, baseball, dance, track, bass lessons, etc. Your priorties will change and opportunities will aline themselves with your childrens activity. You have not a clue, but so worth it.
i m a 21 yr old guy.how to ride a bike properly?please help me out.i m very much worried.?
juju
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I had a fellow come in my bike shop that had never been able to learn to ride a bicycle.
If you learned to ride a bike at an early age it is hard to understand how complex this is but I have had some experience teaching adults to ride and it is not easy. The most graphic case I remember was a guy that wanted to learn to ride a bike because he wanted to go out with the ladies. Eventually they would talk to him about going out on a bike ride and he would have to lie and make up excuses about how he couldn't make it. The real truth was he never really learned when he was small and the few times he had tried he had only scared himself further. Because he was now almost 40 and it was hurting his social life, he wanted to try again to learn.
I asked him if he had balance issues in other areas in his life and he surprisingly was a private pilot and an accomplished person in many areas. So his lack of balance was not due to a medical issue with the inner ear - just lack of balance on a bicycle.
I took a small folding bike and a childrens bike I had in my bike shop and lowered the seats so he could put both feet on the ground easily. We tried them both and the kids bike seemed to work the best for him.
We went to a park out early to give him some privacy and made a few laps of the grassy field. You see he was just terribly embassased that he could not ride a bike. The grassy field was to reduce injury when he fell and also because the soft surface helps to slow down the bike's movements. I held him tightly like a little kid and walked him around. He struggled for balance. After a few times he was surprised to see that he was beginning to get the rudiments. He fell a few times but with a helmet and the grass it was no problem.
We did these lessons on several more occasions and on the third time we went out he went about 20 feet without putting his feet down or falling. He was screaming with excitement. Something went off in the guy's mind and he suddenly knew he could do this. It was only a short period of time before he came in the bike shop and bought a full size bike for himself followed by a short time later he came in and bought another bike for his fiance, beautiful young lady who loved to bike ride.
So I would suggest you get a big friend who will help you and repeat the procedure I outlined above.
Good luck. I know you can do it!!!
I had a fellow come in my bike shop that had never been able to learn to ride a bicycle.
If you learned to ride a bike at an early age it is hard to understand how complex this is but I have had some experience teaching adults to ride and it is not easy. The most graphic case I remember was a guy that wanted to learn to ride a bike because he wanted to go out with the ladies. Eventually they would talk to him about going out on a bike ride and he would have to lie and make up excuses about how he couldn't make it. The real truth was he never really learned when he was small and the few times he had tried he had only scared himself further. Because he was now almost 40 and it was hurting his social life, he wanted to try again to learn.
I asked him if he had balance issues in other areas in his life and he surprisingly was a private pilot and an accomplished person in many areas. So his lack of balance was not due to a medical issue with the inner ear - just lack of balance on a bicycle.
I took a small folding bike and a childrens bike I had in my bike shop and lowered the seats so he could put both feet on the ground easily. We tried them both and the kids bike seemed to work the best for him.
We went to a park out early to give him some privacy and made a few laps of the grassy field. You see he was just terribly embassased that he could not ride a bike. The grassy field was to reduce injury when he fell and also because the soft surface helps to slow down the bike's movements. I held him tightly like a little kid and walked him around. He struggled for balance. After a few times he was surprised to see that he was beginning to get the rudiments. He fell a few times but with a helmet and the grass it was no problem.
We did these lessons on several more occasions and on the third time we went out he went about 20 feet without putting his feet down or falling. He was screaming with excitement. Something went off in the guy's mind and he suddenly knew he could do this. It was only a short period of time before he came in the bike shop and bought a full size bike for himself followed by a short time later he came in and bought another bike for his fiance, beautiful young lady who loved to bike ride.
So I would suggest you get a big friend who will help you and repeat the procedure I outlined above.
Good luck. I know you can do it!!!
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