Motorcycle is a deal breaker for me. Is that wrong?

cathoratio

meant to say his other buddies now WANT to get bikes too.
I have always known that I do not want to be married to a motorcycle enthusiast. I dated one and had fun on few rides, but decided that would never be my lifestyle and I would be too anxious thinking the worst if he was late getting home etc....I just don't like the feeling.

I have witnessed two motorcycle accidents. One where i noticed the guy pass me on the right (distincitive bike) and a few minutes later saw him get clipped by an SUV and fly over the center divide where he was hit by two cars and killed. I watched the bike skid out across three lanes of traffic halting traffic in both directions.

In addition I had a close high school friend die and a neighbor's son die in motorcycle accidents. I pass idiots in cars swerving in lanes texting and on cell phones every day. I just think risk of serious injury is high.

Anyway, I married a sports car enthusiast and we have one convertible sports car and were planning to buy another sports sedan shortly to replace our commuter car.

Now one of his friends buys a sport bike and my hubby starts watching motorcycle races, buying motorbike magazine, watching motorcycles on you tube, and enrolled in motorcycle class.

Maybe in my 20's I might have come around and tried to change my mind and embrace this new hobby, but I am 39, we have a one year old son. I want to be here for every moment of my son's life if at all possible. I'm athletic, I play tennis, I snowboard, I ride my bicycle. We already have lots of hobbies. Snowboarding is not risk free either, but still less likely to die when hit by skiier on their cell phone.

I am also the bread winner. I pay the mortgage, the insurance, the cable, the power. I bought our cars. 100% of my income goes to the necessities/travel/entertainment. My hubby is supposed to put 100% of his salary into our savings.

I just think it is selfish for him to suddenly want to buy an expensive toy that will be used by him alone and that worries me so much.

Even though I make six figure salary, I don't touch our savings. I don't buy Gucci purses or designer clothes. I buy drugstore cosmetics and get our food at costco. I am focused on bettering our son's future and saving funds for family trips (going to Australia in 2010) and I think he should be too.

He said just trust him that he will be safe. But I don't trust others on the road. And I don't want my son to want to "be like daddy" and want to get a motorcycle too. I know I can't stop it if he is 18 and does want to go that route, but I don't want to encourage that AT ALL.

He is my only child and will be my only child. And I don't want to end up a single my mother in her early 40's.

I am seriously thinking of seperating. Not threatening, just ending it. I don't want to love a motorcycle rider. (Two of his other buddies are also not wanting to get bikes so they can all "ride together").
I am not THREATING divorce. I am not going to stop him from getting his motorcycle. He can buy it and insure it and ride it to his heart's content. I am just not comfortable being with anymore. But I won't STOP him. If he loved me he would appreciate my fears and be satisfied with the sports car that i BOUGHT for him. I have loved him enough to financial support him for eight years and for him to want MORE from me all the time. I think snowboarding, kayaking, sports cars, scuba diving etc.... should be enough of a thrill for anyone. He can't do this one thing for me? Please.
I did not give thumbs down. The fact that I am 39 with a one-year old is exactly why I am having issues with motorbike. I know I'm old!

Answer
I just lost a friend on a bike, he left two kids and a wife to go it alone. the kids are 6mo and 3 years old. I tried to talk him out of the bike but he just laugh at me. A woman hit him in a parking lot at low speed. Still killed him. There are no fender benders on bikes. I have two friends who both lost a leg. and a gale in my office has a husband in a chair, hit on his bike. Tell him that. when the kid is groan he can get the bike. Don't leave him, help him understand he is needed in one peace. I sold three bikes when I got married .

PS Your not old, your smart and responsible thinking of others instead of your self. I think you rock. :)

jp

Dirt Bike, Is this a good deal?

DrTre

I found a dirtbike on craigslist, 750 dollars, It is a kx 65.

I was wondering if that was a good deal, and also, is the KX 65 a youth of kid dirtbike, or is it good for adults.

I am 20, about 145 lbs, and 5'9"

Answer
maybe if your gonna race pit bikes buth there made for kids like 5 years old

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